When life throws you lemons, say oh yeah “I Love Lemons” what else have you got? ~ Anonymous
Life throws unexpected trials and tribulations at any given time. The ole’ saying in life is when life throws you lemons, make lemonade. Recently, Beyoncé dropped her Lemonade album which chronicled the joys and pains of love, referencing when life hands you lemons, you make lemonade. Well in my 40+ year journey I’ve learned when life hands you lemons, you make a lemon drop martini. (Don’t Judge Me) As in previous post I guess you can see that the lemon drop martini is my beverage of choice to relax, relate, and release.
We all have to find that one comfort item in times of distress we can turn to, to relax. Now don’t get me wrong, I believe in seeking God and prayer. Seeking and turning to God, is without a doubt my first choice. He will always be my first comfort zone.
When I need to exhale, friends and a cocktail or two is my second choice. There is nothing like turning to friend girls to have a great hearty laugh. It’s just something about spending time with friends to distract you only if it’s momentarily from the lemons that have been thrown at you.
Here I share with you 4 coping mechanisms that have allowed me to keep a sane mind when I have been hit with lemons in my life:
1. Making the best out of negative comments – Trying to understand what has happened and look to understand the lesson from which you can take from what has an occurred. There is a lesson to be learned from any negative thing that has happen in your life. There is either a lesson or a blessing that will come about.
2. Control the things you can – There is only so much a person can do. You have to realize that you cannot have control over everything that happens in your life. The best thing you can do is control what you can and let what you cannot control be turned over to God.
3. Turn to social support – Seek true genuine friends for emotional support. Ones that will not judge. While they cannot solve your problem, just having them around you is comfort within itself.
4. Change your language – What comes out of your mouth is important. When you speak negative, negative things will happen. When you speak positive, positive things will occur. It is all about speaking positive words into your life. It’s called speaking life into your situation.
We all have a choice with how we deal with things in our lives. It is up to you to change the things in life you can. Worrying about things you have no control over can do nothing for you but cause you worry, anxiety, and stress. This combination will embody you to be mentally, physically and emotionally drained. And, can have the possibility to leave you with being depressed. As we know depression has the tendency to cause suicide.
Life is short as it is, it is time for you to take control of your life and learn ways or find coping mechanisms that will allow you how to handle whatever is thrown at you. It is no secret that there will always be something going on in your life. Like another saying goes “it is always something.” Therefore, learning how to deal with the lemons that has or will be thrown at you in your lifetime will help you the next time you are hit with unforeseen circumstances.
When lemons are thrown at you, how do you view what has occurred?
Do you try to look at the lesson you can take from the occurrences or do you ask, why me?
Will you take the time to make a lemon drop martini?