“Find yourself FIRST…like
yourself FIRST…love yourself FIRST… & friendship & love will naturally
find YOU.”
― Mandy Hale
― Mandy Hale
Interesting title we have here.
Have you ever asked yourself this question?
Lately, this has been a topic among women at work, my circle
of friends and oddly enough, strangers. The way I see it, until we learn to
love ourselves, a man cannot truly love us in the fashion we want to be loved.
Yes, he could love us, but really, would it be the way we
want to be loved? Or, would it be his twisted up way of love? I don’t know
about you but I want to be loved in a fashion that’s true, genuine, and above
all else, Godly.
We have to love our self in a way that shows a man, I am
confident in who I am and I will not be treated any kind of way. Ladies, when
we truly love ourselves we have a glow about ourselves, we are cheerful, bubbly,
and we make wise decisions. When we are secure in ourselves we see things more
clearly. When we are insecure we walk with our head down, we have sunken
shoulders, and we don’t make wise decisions.
In my opinion, as women we set the tone for the way a man
treats us. If a man gets a hint that we are insecure, he will start to treat us
any kind of way. Sure, everything starts off wonderful in the beginning, right?
Then in many cases, things start to go downhill and we wonder, how did we get
here?
Ladies, we are here because somewhere in the mist of loving
a man so much we have forgotten all about loving ourselves. Therefore, a man believes
because we are so in love, he can start to handle us any kind of way. He’s
saying to himself, oh she’ll never leave me.
Yes, some men believe this!
So, now we are left feeling depressed, stressed and have
anxiety. We are thinking to ourselves, “I
just wanted to be loved.” I know there’s someone out there that can relate
to what I’m talking about. Come on now, I’m just keeping it real.
As I stated in my last post, I’m a firm believer in when we
learn to love ourselves everything else falls into place.
Let’s look at ways we can learn to love ourselves:
1.
The first thing we should do is seek God. God is
our source for making wise decisions. He should be the one we turn to first
above all. Pray for wisdom and discernment.
2.
Ask God to show you all the ways you can learn
to love YOU as He loves you. I believe in, Matthew 7:7 "Keep
on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will
find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you.”
3.
Take time and find out about the things you enjoy
and put forth the effort to start doing them. Whether it is taking a walk in
the park, running, going to the gym or taking a yoga class, find out what
brings you joy and puts a smile on that pretty face. Yes, you are beautiful! The
smile is there, you just have to bring it out.
I love to go walk the lake’s at LSU. The
view of the lake during the spring and summer is just so peaceful. Watching the
ducks and looking at the water sway back and forth just brings calmness over my
entire body. The scenery is just so breath taking. I love to see the people
interacting while they are walking or running. Everyone just looks so happy and
at peace. The whole atmosphere is just so relaxing. Namaste.
4.
Take a trip by yourself or just take some quiet
time for yourself. Meditate. Read. You just might discover some things you
never knew about yourself. This will help you discover who you are. You might
come to the realization that “Hey, I’m
so darn lovable and I love myself.” Your next statement will be “I don’t need a man’s love to feel whole. I
love me some ME!”
Now, don’t get me wrong, everyone wants to be loved, but
there’s a difference between a want and a need. When we love ourselves and feel
whole and complete, we don’t need a man; we want a man. There’s a difference between
the wanting and needing of a man’s love. When we need a man, we are willing to put up
with whatever, when we want a man there a limitation of what we will put up
with. Understand the difference.
As we journey into this phenomenal way of learning to love
ourselves we will find that, a man cannot love us unconditionally until we
learn to love ourselves. It is then we will be adamant about how a man should
treat us. We will demand respect and if a man is not willing to see that we are
queens and treat us accordingly, we will have no problem with sending him on his
way.
This new found love we’ve found within ourselves will leave
a smile on our face that no one will ever be able to take away from us again. We
will be so happy that we finally took the time to discover who we are, what we
love, and the things we enjoy doing. We will finally be able to say, “This is how I deserve to be treated.” How
I deserve to be treated will never have to be a topic of discussion ever again.
Everyone around us will be like WOW, she finally knows her
worth. It is then we come to realize
that there is nothing wrong with being by ourselves until God sends us the mate
that he created for us.
What
techniques did you used when you discovered who you were?
Thanks for reading…
Leave a comment and share your thoughts!
Until next time,
Spread your wings and fly…
Be Encouraged,Daria
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