Tuesday, January 19, 2016

Forgiving Others for Their Wrongs in Your Life

It’s not an easy journey, to get to a place where you forgive people. But it is such a powerful place, because it frees you. Tyler Perry
It’s amazing what prayer can do when you truly give something you are going through to God. I can remember in my 20’s, 30’s and the beginning of my 40’s, I had no tolerance for any bull-crap when it came down to certain situations in my life. It is no secret, everyone knows that as well. I’m still a work in progress however lately because of my “War Room” closet I’ve come to look at things differently. This movie was a God send and it surely feels like it came along at the right time in my life. It really makes you more aware and serves as a reminder of how praying consistently, intently, with purpose and being specific in your request changes things.

Even though, I could forgive easily, I still had no tolerance in hearing what others had to say. Whereas today, I have learned that I can be more open to “listening” instead of completely shutting down and saying the hell with it and moving on. Growth through prayer is a wonderful thing. It allows you to look at things from a different perspective for making important decisions in your life.

Now let me be clear, when I speak on forgiveness, it means I’ve accepted something for what it is regardless if the truth is being or has been told. When and if you decide to forgive someone that has wronged you, you make a decision to free yourself. Whether you decide to keep that chapter opened or closed it is a decision solely up to you based on God’s guidance for your life.  

In my opinion, just because you forgive a person does not mean that you have to have any dealings with nor keep them in your life. It does not mean that you will put yourselves back into a harmful situation or that you suddenly accept or approve of the person’s wrong behavior. Forgiveness allows you the opportunity to wipe the slate clean and move forward. Forgiveness does not mean that the person is deserving of it, it means because of God’s grace and mercy you are forgiven. Having an unforgiving heart takes up to much energy and steals your joy. It can also bring about stress and other related illnesses. So, we have to begin to think, is it really that serious?

In all circumstances forgiveness is hard. It takes time and prayer. Accepting that someone so dear to you has wronged you and betrayed you is a hard pill to swallow. One thing we have to remember is that “time heals all wounds” and with God all things are possible. Trust God to bring you through your emotional healing.
If there is someone out there that is seeking your forgiveness, give them the opportunity to speak their peace. Whether you decide to keep them in your life is a decision you will have to make.  If you have wronged someone think about going to them to right your wrong. You never know what good could come from righting past wrongs. There is a chance for a stronger and a more solid bond or it could be the opportunity for closure so that you can move on with your life without regrets.

Lastly, remember forgiveness is for YOU. Just like God has forgiven us we must forgive them. We forgive because we have been forgiven by God (Ephesians 4:32).


Let’s Chat:
Is there someone out there that you should/need to forgive?

Will you think about freeing yourself from the bitterness you have been holding on to?