“Nobody can go
back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new
ending.”
Maria Robinson
Have you ever felt like you didn’t belong? Whether, it was
with your family, acquaintances, or in a professional setting. Did it leave you
with an unsettling feeling? As if you are an outcast?
I’ve noticed that with many families, there is always a
person that considers themselves the black sheep of the family. Meaning, a
person stops coming around because they feel they are being judged by family,
friends and/or others.
A place they once felt comfortable in, no longer exists, so
they stay away. Alienating themselves from the ones that are suppose to love
them and have their backs regardless of their faults. But like the old saying
goes “Blood doesn’t make family, love does.” “There are more friends that are
more like family than your own.” In the world today, these statements speak
volumes. There is also validity to them.
I know from experience, I’ve been disappointed with one’s
behavior, but not with the person. It is a difference. We can be disappointed with one’s behavior
but not the person; it’s the person’s behavior that’s causing the havoc. Not
the actual person. I know for some this statement will be a little confusing if
you don’t understand the difference between the two.
We need to realize that we are all human and subject to
making bad decisions one time or another in our lifetime. However, this
shouldn’t stop us from being confident in the skin we are in. God created us
and when He did, he knew from the beginning we were going to be sinners. To
have someone judge you is definitely an understatement, especially, when we’ve
all done things we are not proud of.
Some people’s bad decisions and secrets are revealed and
some are not. I know there are some sitting, on the edge of their seats, hoping
their secrets are not revealed while passing judgment on the ones that are.
This leaves me to talk to the ones that believe because they
have made poor decisions; they can no longer be confident in who they are. I
would like to also address the people that are so quick to judge only because
their secrets haven’t been revealed yet.
“I stop caring about what people thought of me years ago. Thoughts change. Feelings change. But thank God that Jesus is consistent yesterday, today, and forever. Be free from people’s every changing “thoughts” about you. It’s all subject to change based on their today and tomorrow feelings.” Heather Lindsey
Here are four reasons people should feel confident in their
skin regardless of poor decisions in the past:
1.
We are all human being’s living in an imperfect
world - When I say this, I’m speaking from my heart and experience. We should
not let anyone make us feel we don’t belong in a world that’s subject to
wrongdoings.
We should, however, work on ourselves to
get pass our past and become better human beings. There is always a chance to a
better person. Every day is a new day to be better than we were the day before.
Always remember this; God gives us a new day everyday to change our lives. With
this being said, take advantage of everyday and start anew.
2.
No one can make you feel inferior unless you
allow them to – Give no one control over your life. You hold the key to make
changes in your life. Never give a person a pen to right your story. Whether
it’s good or bad, it’s your story and you have the right to speak on it when
you are ready. If you choose to never speak on it, it’s your life, your choice.
However, it is my opinion that your story
could possibly save someone from making the same mistakes. You never know it
could save someone’s life. Think about that when you are debating if you should
share your story.
Your MESS
is your MESSAGE and the world could benefit from it.
3.
Never allow anyone to make you feel less than
because of your past choices – The past is just that the past. If someone tries
to bring up your past, nicely tell them that’s in my past; if you have a
problem with that, I can leave you in the past as well. It might sound a little
harsh, but the reality is you don’t need anyone to keep rehashing your past
when you are trying to move forward. The
past is the past, stop bringing it up.
One thing you may have to realize is, friends that you have
been friends with or so called friends and/or relatives, are not exempt they
might have to be left behind as well. The main objective is to get yourself
together so you can start to become comfortable in the skin you are in.
Sometimes you have to distance yourself to work on you. Everybody can’t travel on
your journey with you.
4.
Always surround yourself with people that want
to see you succeed – As I stated before we’ve all made choices in life that we
are not proud of. For some, it’s our baby daddy, an ex-husband (o.k., I kind of strayed, let me bring it
back, lol) or for others, it could be something more serious. Yes, some are
worse than others. But, the main thing is one sin is not greater than the
other, can I get an AMEN! People that are true and genuine understand this and
love you regardless. Their main goal should be helping you get past your
mistakes on to a better future.
Getting pass things in your past takes a lot of work and it
is not a process that happens over night. It takes the 3 D’s; discipline,
determination, and dedication. The focus is to regain your confidence and
become the best version of yourself. Being confident in the skin you’re in, the
choices you’ve made and the lessons you’ve learned. I’m talking about coming
back with a vengeance to be better than you once were. We are talking about a
whole new outlook, one that is beyond anything you could have ever imagined.
The past mistakes you’ve made have made you the person you
are today. But the future is up to you and who you want to be. You are not
condemned to live in the shame of past mistakes, unless you allow yourself to
do so. Don’t let guilt, self pity, low self-esteem or the judgment of other’s
hold you back. Let go and Let God, because he is the only one who can judge you
and he has already forgiven you.
Remember,
you owe it to yourself to make this happen and regain your confidence of being
content in your skin.
When are you going to start your new beginning?
Thanks for reading…
Leave a comment and share your thoughts!
Until next time,
Spread your wings and fly…
Be Encouraged,
Daria
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