Tuesday, March 3, 2015

4 Reasons to be Confident in the Skin You’re in Regardless of Past Mistakes

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“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”

Maria Robinson

Have you ever felt like you didn’t belong? Whether, it was with your family, acquaintances, or in a professional setting. Did it leave you with an unsettling feeling? As if you are an outcast? 

I’ve noticed that with many families, there is always a person that considers themselves the black sheep of the family. Meaning, a person stops coming around because they feel they are being judged by family, friends and/or others.

A place they once felt comfortable in, no longer exists, so they stay away. Alienating themselves from the ones that are suppose to love them and have their backs regardless of their faults. But like the old saying goes “Blood doesn’t make family, love does.” “There are more friends that are more like family than your own.” In the world today, these statements speak volumes. There is also validity to them.

I know from experience, I’ve been disappointed with one’s behavior, but not with the person. It is a difference.  We can be disappointed with one’s behavior but not the person; it’s the person’s behavior that’s causing the havoc. Not the actual person. I know for some this statement will be a little confusing if you don’t understand the difference between the two.

We need to realize that we are all human and subject to making bad decisions one time or another in our lifetime. However, this shouldn’t stop us from being confident in the skin we are in. God created us and when He did, he knew from the beginning we were going to be sinners. To have someone judge you is definitely an understatement, especially, when we’ve all done things we are not proud of.

Some people’s bad decisions and secrets are revealed and some are not. I know there are some sitting, on the edge of their seats, hoping their secrets are not revealed while passing judgment on the ones that are.

This leaves me to talk to the ones that believe because they have made poor decisions; they can no longer be confident in who they are. I would like to also address the people that are so quick to judge only because their secrets haven’t been revealed yet. 

“I stop caring about what people thought of me years ago. Thoughts change. Feelings change. But thank God that Jesus is consistent yesterday, today, and forever. Be free from people’s every changing “thoughts” about you. It’s all subject to change based on their today and tomorrow feelings.” Heather Lindsey

Here are four reasons people should feel confident in their skin regardless of poor decisions in the past:
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1.       We are all human being’s living in an imperfect world - When I say this, I’m speaking from my heart and experience. We should not let anyone make us feel we don’t belong in a world that’s subject to wrongdoings.

We should, however, work on ourselves to get pass our past and become better human beings. There is always a chance to a better person. Every day is a new day to be better than we were the day before. Always remember this; God gives us a new day everyday to change our lives. With this being said, take advantage of everyday and start anew.

2.       No one can make you feel inferior unless you allow them to – Give no one control over your life. You hold the key to make changes in your life. Never give a person a pen to right your story. Whether it’s good or bad, it’s your story and you have the right to speak on it when you are ready. If you choose to never speak on it, it’s your life, your choice.

However, it is my opinion that your story could possibly save someone from making the same mistakes. You never know it could save someone’s life. Think about that when you are debating if you should share your story.

Your MESS is your MESSAGE and the world could benefit from it.

3.       Never allow anyone to make you feel less than because of your past choices – The past is just that the past. If someone tries to bring up your past, nicely tell them that’s in my past; if you have a problem with that, I can leave you in the past as well. It might sound a little harsh, but the reality is you don’t need anyone to keep rehashing your past when you are trying to move forward.  The past is the past, stop bringing it up.

One thing you may have to realize is, friends that you have been friends with or so called friends and/or relatives, are not exempt they might have to be left behind as well. The main objective is to get yourself together so you can start to become comfortable in the skin you are in. Sometimes you have to distance yourself to work on you. Everybody can’t travel on your journey with you.

4.       Always surround yourself with people that want to see you succeed – As I stated before we’ve all made choices in life that we are not proud of. For some, it’s our baby daddy, an ex-husband  (o.k., I kind of strayed, let me bring it back, lol) or for others, it could be something more serious. Yes, some are worse than others. But, the main thing is one sin is not greater than the other, can I get an AMEN! People that are true and genuine understand this and love you regardless. Their main goal should be helping you get past your mistakes on to a better future.

Getting pass things in your past takes a lot of work and it is not a process that happens over night. It takes the 3 D’s; discipline, determination, and dedication. The focus is to regain your confidence and become the best version of yourself. Being confident in the skin you’re in, the choices you’ve made and the lessons you’ve learned. I’m talking about coming back with a vengeance to be better than you once were. We are talking about a whole new outlook, one that is beyond anything you could have ever imagined.

The past mistakes you’ve made have made you the person you are today. But the future is up to you and who you want to be. You are not condemned to live in the shame of past mistakes, unless you allow yourself to do so. Don’t let guilt, self pity, low self-esteem or the judgment of other’s hold you back. Let go and Let God, because he is the only one who can judge you and he has already forgiven you.

Remember, you owe it to yourself to make this happen and regain your confidence of being content in your skin.

When are you going to start your new beginning? 

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Until next time,
Spread your wings and fly…

Be Encouraged,