Tuesday's Talk With D
“Be
grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does
you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” Zig Ziglar
I love everything about this quote. It sums everything up in
a nutshell. My focus lately to God, has been asking Him, to take the desire
away about complaining and if I might add, cursing, don’t judge me. That will
be a post for a later time. I find myself complaining about small things or big
things and the majority of the time, it’s not about anything serious. I know if
I’ve notice my own complaining others have as well. But, my focus is not on
what others think but about how I feel when I complain. My goal is to work on
myself, and in that I’m noticing things that I need to work on and complaining
is the first thing. When I say complaining, my complaints are I’m tired, I
don’t feel like doing this or that, it’s basically just hearing myself talk
about what I don’t feel like doing, and frankly I believe I’ve gotten on my own
nerves. Now, isn’t that something? When
someone can admit their tired of hearing themselves complain about basically
nothing. I believe this is something that we all can relate to but maybe not
necessarily readily to admit to. I’m at a point in my life, where I’m ready to
acknowledge my faults publicly and work on them as well. I realize that we
often complain without realizing that we are complaining.
With that being said, I would like to share some tips that I’ve incorporated in my life that has helped me on my journey to complaining less and in the future I pray that I will stop all together. It’s definitely helping me to become a much happier and stress free person.
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I
reflect on how good God has been in my life – Take some time and
reflect on just how good God is and you’ll come to appreciate everything you
have. You might not have everything you believe you should have at this moment
but think about where you’ve come from and that should give you insight that
your complaints really have no validity.
·
Be
thankful – When I hear other people’s problem, it brings me back to
reality about my own. I think, WOW,
I think I’m going through something and I’m actually not. Sometimes it takes
hearing other people’s stories or watching the news, to snap back to reality
and thank God, that it could be worse.
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Realize
that you can’t change things you have no control over –
Whew, now this has been a lifesaver. Once I realized and processed this
particular method into my life, my stress level decreased. I was relieved that
I actually was able to genuinely let go and let GOD.
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Focus
on positivity – I focus on the positive and keep the
negativity away. It has gotten to the point whereas if someone doesn’t have
anything positive to say and is always complaining I don’t stick around. It’s
nothing personal because I know everyone is not on the journey I’m on so I
don’t judge them for that, I just don’t entertain it. Hopefully, they’ll take
the cue and follow suit about changing their complaining habit. It’s really a
bad habit to have.
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What
are you willing to do about it? - If I’m not willing to do
anything about my complaints then why complain and that usually redirects my
mind to something more positive and changes my mind frame. That’s like people
complaining about someone being in the choir can’t sing, well join the choir,
and show them your gifts and talents, otherwise, be quiet! Enough said!
Complaining is a bad habit to have and believe it or not has
the ability to take away your happiness. If you are always complaining, how can
you be happy? You know what, you can’t. Hopefully, by reading my post,
something was sparked inside of you to take a look at yourself to see if in
fact you are a complainer. If you don’t have an idea what a complainer is, the
Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines a complainer as “a person who makes frequent complaints
usually about little things.” Hopefully, that clears up any questions in your mind
to what a complainer is and you can now determine if you are in fact a
complainer. You don’t have to admit it to anyone but yourself. That’s the only
thing that’s important. If you’re having trouble figuring out if you are a
complainer or if you don’t want to admit you are a complainer, just ask
someone, I’m sure they will be willing to tell you the truth.
Seek the truth and be on your way to a much happier and stress free person.
Seek the truth and be on your way to a much happier and stress free person.
Philippians 2:14
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