“Nothing changes until people decide to do the
things they must in order to bring about peace.” Shannon Adler
Is there something from your past that’s keeping you from
moving forward?
Do you need to make amends with someone to bring closure for
a more peaceful life? Or, is there someone wanting to make amends to you for
closure and you have not given them the opportunity?
I received an email the other day from an old boyfriend needing
closure to his past. He wanted to make
amends for all the wrongdoings that were done in our relationship. I figured I
was cordial when we saw each other and we spoke, may be a laugh or so, so what
was the big deal, right? I guess you can see closure, is not that big of a deal
to me.
At first, I was like whatever, it is what it is. Just let it
go. In my opinion, we had both moved on with our lives and the past was the
past. No need to rehash what has already been done. It was my thought that the chapter
was closed, burnt, and had been sprinkled in the sea. There were no hard
feelings. It was just like the old saying “People come into your life for a
Reason, a Season or a Lifetime.” He was a season that has now passed.
However, through the emails I could see that this was
something that had been weighing on his mind and he wanted to finally make
amends for what had been done. Since I’ve embarked on a new journey in my life
and I have a new perspective my outlook has changed. My once selfish
thoughts are no longer there. You have to understand, once you become secure in
whom you are as a person, there’s no need to hold on to selfish thoughts that
hinder you from having peace and moving forward.
It was apparent that it took courage and growth for him to
finally email me after all of these years and want to make amends. In my blog,
I discuss personal development so I wouldn’t be authentic if I denied someone
the opportunity to bring closure to their life.
According to the writer over at Naked With Socks On, an
award winning site launched in 2008, men need closure too. Here’s what he had
to say: “Over
the years, I’ve had my share of relationships – platonic, romantic, business,
family, etc – but what I’ve begun to realize is the value of closure. When I
was younger, I thought only women needed closure. Any time I heard a chick say
she needed ‘closure,’ I had no idea what she meant. We’re no longer dealing
with each other, so you go your way and I’ll go mine.”
Let me share with you
7 reasons it’s important to have closure in life:
1.
Closure is good for healing.
2.
Closure allows you to Let Go and Let God.
3.
Closure closes a chapter in a person’s life to
truly move on.
4.
Closure gives you the ability to be baggage free
from the past.
5.
Closure allows someone to make amends for past
wrongdoings.
6.
Closure from the past, builds better
relationships for the future both personal and professional.
7.
Closure can answer who, what, and why of something
occurred. Perfect opportunity if you have been wondering why.
“Closure is
extremely important after a long relationship,” Krupa Shah, an early childhood
education student at Long Island University, says. “If you don’t find peace
within yourself and the relationship, it can hinder your growth both personally
and as a person. While closure can be hard to find, whether it’s two months or
two years, it’s an ongoing process of finding ways to be OK by yourself, and
trust that eventually all aspects of your life will fall into place.”
For some, not having the ability to have closure can leave a
negative effect. It can cause a person
to have trouble with moving on. The important factor that needs to be
considered is that not everyone is in the same place spiritually that you are
in. So, there’s a chance you will not find or receive closure in that manner.
If that is the case, there are numerous websites that can assist you with techniques to help you find closure on your own. In my opinion, if
finding closure is important to you, I suggest you take the necessary steps to
bring healing to your life. Don’t let closure continue to hinder you from
moving forward with your life.
Here are some websites to assist you:
·
http://www.lifescript.com/well-being/articles/h/how_to_move_on_10_steps_for_post-break_up_closure.aspx
I think it’s ironic after all of these years after I had
closed a chapter in my life that someone would need closure. However, I think
its human nature to desire to right past wrongs. I hope the fact that I have
forgiven him gives him the closure he finally needs to move on with his life.
Lastly, by finding closer in your life, you will see that a
burden has been lifted from your shoulders that you may have not been aware of.
What
are your thoughts on closure?
Is
there anyone out there that you can make amends to? Would you give someone the
opportunity to make amends to you?
Thanks for reading…
Leave a comment and share your thoughts!
Until next time,
Spread your wings and fly…
Be Encouraged,
Daria
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