In life, it
will not always be peaches and cream. We will come across a million and one obstacles
that will try to steal our happiness and joy. That is the truth. There is no
way to sugar coat it, let me put it out there. There are people you will come
across that just cannot seem to find their happiness and do not want to see you
happy either. However, you have a choice in how you handle those people and
situations. Below are three ways in which you can stay true to yourself and
make sure you own and keep your happiness without jeopardizing your integrity in
how you respond to people or situations of unhappiness.
1. Do not apologize – Happiness comes at
a cost. Happiness takes work. There is a lot of mental, spiritual, and
emotional work to finally own your happy. Some people will try to make you feel
guilty for being happy because of the simple fact they are miserable. Never knowing
or understanding the amount of time it has taken you to finally own your happy.
Sure, we are happy as babies; however, life happens and sometimes our happiness
is wiped away because of all the obstacles we have experienced along the way. The
good thing is some of us realize this and take steps to correct our unhappiness
to live an enjoyable life. After all, we are the ones responsible for how we
live and if we want to live one of happiness. It is always our choice in life on
how we choose to live.
2. Recognize - Happiness comes from within. So
many people have been through obstacles, some their fault and some are not. Regardless, as an adult there are plenty of resources we can utilize to get
past things that have occur in our pass to ensure our own happiness. Recognize,
unfortunately some people just enjoy being unhappy and look for pity. There is
always a problem with something or someone. It is the nature of their lives and
nothing you try to do will make them realize this until they take ownership and
actions in their lives to reverse the way you they feel. People that are happy
and want to see others happy, take it upon themselves to try to help this
person to redirect their feelings by speaking life into their lives with
positive quotes and sayings. Sometimes it works and sometimes it will not. In
the not sometime cases, you have to eventually recognize the pattern and make a
choice if you will continue to pour into this person. In doing so, you can eventually
drain yourself and risk your own happiness. The question then remains, will you
let go and realize that it is no longer your responsibility, let that person learn
that it is their job to work on their own happiness or will you continue to let
them drain your energy and take you down with them. The key is recognizing and
if you cannot help move on.
3. Strategize – To own your happy you
have to 1st make a choice whether you want to be happy or not. Then you have
to decide do you want to put in the work to do so. Are you willing to step out
of your comfort zone? If that is the case, then there is the research involved
of either finding a community group for people who are down on their luck and
cannot not seem to shake back from their obstacles in their lives for one
reason or another. Now a days there are so many resources out there such as
self-help books, inspirational and motivational speakers, life coaches, and
therapist. There is also our general practitioner that can put you on depression
medicine to reverse your feelings to help you along the way. It does not have
to permanent however it can be a solution for you while you work the steps to
own your happy. As I stated we all deserve to find and own our happy. The real
question is are you willing to put in the work if you cannot find your own
happiness, on your own.
If you do not
get but one thing from this post, I hope it is that we all deserve to be happy
in life. God did not put us this earth to live a life of unhappiness. And, if
we are in a situation that we are dealing with unhappiness, he has provided more
than enough resources to help us along the way to either become happy or regain
our happiness.
As always
keeping it real with,
Ya Girl, Dee
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